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Richard

My friend Richard died yesterday. I just got the news tonight. Richard was my rugby buddy. We played for the Cleveland Rugby Club for my 5 years of medical school. We loved rugby and we loved it together. We loved to run -- after practice, in the games, and getting fit again after a long Cleveland winter. We worked hard. We were competitive with each other but way more so in games. We loved the challenge --the steeper hills, the worst weather, the less people on the field(sevens was better than 15's); it all made for great fun.

Tonight I went for my evening walk with my friend Michael. We explored a new neighborhood(a hilly one) and we walked fast. I didn't feel good at the start but we went up the hills anyway. I was tired, working hard. We came home along the bluffs in Del Mar and I ran !! Not far, not fast but I ran. I felt like I was running with Richard. I remembered our workouts, our time together. We loved to run and we ran tonight again.

I am so happy to have had that feeling again. We saw incredible nature, beauty and majestic homes. But what I will always remember is the run. It was probably only 50 yards but it was running.

Good night Richard and thank you for everything we shared.

Comments

It was an Epic outing.
You were strong!
Heaven Johana said…
I am very sorry, stay strong...
wannabeatms said…
Congratulations and Condolences to you. I am sure Richard is happy to see you run.

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