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Mary B

One of my favorite patients made her transition last night. It was expected as she had been on hospice for a few weeks. Medically, she was always a challenge. She had 2 types of cancer in her body and there always seemed to be something that needed medical attention. In spite of that, she was a dear, sweet soul who always was bright in her outlook and interaction. She was truly loving and the world responded with love and affection. She has 4 great children who truly loved and cared about her. Her husband is one of the most kind, loving men I have ever known.

As we went through her medical care and gradual decline, I really got to know her. She was wise beyond her years. She was positive beyond what can be forced into being-- it truly was deeply ingrained in her being. She was simultaneously loving and easy to love. She had humor in the face of adversity and was always kind and honest.

In my opinion, she was truly a hero. A rare being who lived from her heart with courage, kindness, and eternal warmth.

Now that she has passed, all the chaos surrounding her care dissolves instantaneously. She is back in a state of peace and harmony. There was lots of suffering during her last years--pain, the hassle of many tests and procedures, the malaise that accompanies illness. She always managed to bounce back from illness and adversity. She amazed me and her other docs many times.

Now, there is only the feeling of peace and respect to a life well-lived. I hope her family feels this way. I think they will. Hers was a giant spirit in my mind and now it is free to do whatever freed spirits do.

Comments

Beautiful tribute.

Namaste'
Anonymous said…
Bless you for printing this so we could share in her excellence. A woman that continues to live on in hearts of others makes us all feel fortunate to have heard about her. May her family live with ease.

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