I am now open for business. I have started seeing patients in my new office and in their homes. Actually doing the work has made it abundantly clear that this is the work I am meant to do. So what is it that I offer?
By allowing for time in a relaxed setting, we(the client and I) are able to explore their situation in a depth and fullness that is just not possible in brief office visits. The history and development of the patterns and habits that make up the individual's life can be explored and understood. The emotions and thoughts that go along with the behaviors also come to light. By listening with full presence and bringing attention to not only the story but the beliefs behind the story, we can begin to uncover the roots of the patterns that can lead to "stuckness" or repetitive, unconscious and undesirable behavior patterns. We all learn behavior patterns in our developmental years as part of our maturation that allow us to cope with our emotions and situations. These patterns become entrenched over the years and may be helpful transiently but incongruent to our overall goals and aspirations. The chemistry of our behavior patterns may not be immediately obvious (how food or other substances) can provide comfort when we feel sad, angry or scared; but we all find what works for us. Using our substance or behavior of choice allows us not to feel our pain. The problem comes when we realize that these patterns of behavior are hurting us while they get us through the rough spots.
Change and becoming "unstuck" evolves out of developing a conscious awareness of our thoughts and feelings that lead to repetitive behavior patterns. The reason that true change is so rare in our world(quitting smoking, losing and maintaining weight loss, developing and continuing an exercise program) is that we do not operate at the level of belief. We try to use our will to change the behavior and the fundamental beliefs which underly the behaviors are not known , explored or changed. However, if we bring the light of awareness to the darkness and isolation surrounding our patterns and then find and remember new beliefs, we can move to a better place. With unconditional support and a firm resolve, life can and does change. However, the key is developing new perceptions and beliefs.
Once we are being guided by new beliefs, we become free and obtain the power and energy to change ourselves and maintain that very healthy change. This is true empowerment. We are no longer trapped victims; we are free and conscious. The world then becomes much bigger and more open.
By allowing for time in a relaxed setting, we(the client and I) are able to explore their situation in a depth and fullness that is just not possible in brief office visits. The history and development of the patterns and habits that make up the individual's life can be explored and understood. The emotions and thoughts that go along with the behaviors also come to light. By listening with full presence and bringing attention to not only the story but the beliefs behind the story, we can begin to uncover the roots of the patterns that can lead to "stuckness" or repetitive, unconscious and undesirable behavior patterns. We all learn behavior patterns in our developmental years as part of our maturation that allow us to cope with our emotions and situations. These patterns become entrenched over the years and may be helpful transiently but incongruent to our overall goals and aspirations. The chemistry of our behavior patterns may not be immediately obvious (how food or other substances) can provide comfort when we feel sad, angry or scared; but we all find what works for us. Using our substance or behavior of choice allows us not to feel our pain. The problem comes when we realize that these patterns of behavior are hurting us while they get us through the rough spots.
Change and becoming "unstuck" evolves out of developing a conscious awareness of our thoughts and feelings that lead to repetitive behavior patterns. The reason that true change is so rare in our world(quitting smoking, losing and maintaining weight loss, developing and continuing an exercise program) is that we do not operate at the level of belief. We try to use our will to change the behavior and the fundamental beliefs which underly the behaviors are not known , explored or changed. However, if we bring the light of awareness to the darkness and isolation surrounding our patterns and then find and remember new beliefs, we can move to a better place. With unconditional support and a firm resolve, life can and does change. However, the key is developing new perceptions and beliefs.
Once we are being guided by new beliefs, we become free and obtain the power and energy to change ourselves and maintain that very healthy change. This is true empowerment. We are no longer trapped victims; we are free and conscious. The world then becomes much bigger and more open.
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