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I have been working very hard to try to come up with a formula and process for returning people to health. I have spent many years as a doctor and learned many lessons. The main challenge in helping people is to understand what they believe and then guide them to perceive (believe) something slightly or markedly different. This shift in perception and belief can lead to transformation and healing. The core initial challenge is attempting to reveal people's beliefs. It seems like this would be very easy--just ask them. However, beliefs are often hidden to individuals and thus out of their own conscious awareness. In particular, core beliefs are often not conscious to people as they led to disapproval at some time in their life and as a result were buried in the unconscious. Uncovering deep seeded beliefs can be tedious but bears great fruit when one is attempting to change and get healthier. All behavior stems from beliefs so uncovering beliefs is key to "true" transformation.

In my own personal situation, I struggle with my balance. I have struggled with this challenge over the last 15 years. Most of my closest friends do not know that this is what occupies my thoughts-- I keep it hidden and to myself. I carry a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis which may explain my condition but certainly is not all of the explanation. I recently went on a hike in the desert with friends. I was struggling with keeping up and managing the trail. I felt angry and frustrated on top of attempting to manage the hike. I was very much "in my head" as we proceeded along the trail. My enjoyment and connection with the beauty of the surroundings and with my very good friends was extremely limited by my emotional reaction to the situation. My friends witnessed my suffering and opened up a conversation. Through dialogue, I came to realize that my deep, old belief that I "should not appear weak (or not be strong) or I will be rejected and abandoned". With this conversation and others since, I came to a new belief, "I am challenged in my balance but I choose to accept myself unconditionally". With this new perspective, I found that day and in many hikes locally since that one, that I am much more relaxed and my balance and gait are much less of an issue. In general, I am much more at peace and less angry.

So by following this process of accepting my limitation ongoingly (literally step by step), I have become much freer, calmer and less angry. This constellation of states has opened up a lot of expansion for me and I find I am a better doctor, husband and friend.

Simple, basic and profound; so much time and energy wasted in the past. Acceptance of "what is" (reality) led to a quiet transformation in me. I had taken words and a belief that I learned when I was a young boy shape my world and limit my capacities. Allowing a new way of being to arise has led me to a new place in my life. I will have to keep conscious and aware but the war is now finally over.

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