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Connection to What?

While I almost continually speak of and encourage people to feel and get "connected" as the entryway to health and empowerment, I am realizing that I lose people with the concept of "connection". I am coming to see that while connection to others is absolutely vital to human thriving, it is actually a result that evolves out of developing and nurturing a connection to oneself.

Disapproval and rejection of oneself is the block that stops human connection. We cannot connect fully to others when we don't truly and ongoingly accept ourselves. The voice of disapproval that rings in our heads is the block to connection. Acceptance and love for ourselves allows our hearts to open to our partners, our friends and our colleagues. This is the gateway to health, healing, power and the magic inherent in life.

How to get to acceptance of oneself is the key question. Easy to say; hard to do. First is having the intention to end the war with oneself. Next is choosing in actual moments to go up the road to acceptance rather than down the road to rejection and disapproval. This is not a one-time practice; it takes time and persistence to break the pattern. Some of us are quite "professional" at beating ourselves up. The work we do in groups at Pando is very instrumental in leading to the shift from disapproval to acceptance. Somehow, when we connect verbally and emotionally with others we become less judgmental of others and ourselves. Our Pando "resting in awareness" technique also supports this non-judgmental place as we learn and experience not dwelling in thinking and dropping into the deeper, bigger place of our "true" nature. I will have our expert on this technique write a guest post in the near future to clarify and explain this process in the very near future; it is quite powerful.

In my own experience, I find that when I get out of my "thinking, judging" mind, I am transformed into a place where I find it more natural and easier to connect with others. My internal state determines my receptivity to connection. I believe this is universal and the key to expand our world.

More on this critical topic in the very near future.

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It may work both ways... For example, it may be easier to accept one's own perceived problems if we see that others accept them in us.

What's your take on this?

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