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Self-acceptance

In trying to clarify our factors that create health and well-being, we have focused on authenticity and awareness (awareness of the underlying connection to all of life). While these are the "markers" we are shooting for, the ultimate destination is self-acceptance. From this vantage, there is full connection to others and the world as there is an internal state of acceptance (absence of disapproval). When one feels accepting of him/her self, there is a 360 degree projection of this state out to the world that permits love, respect, consciousness and joy to come in unobstructed and to flow out freely. One is also fully free to be themselves (authentic) as they no longer doubt themselves, have a need to hide any part of themselves or feel compelled to be anything but themselves. This is freedom. This is heaven on earth. This is what Milton referred to as Paradise.

How do we create this? By creating a safe enough space where people can be at home in being themselves without pretense or need to mask their thoughts and feelings in any way. This safe space can be built and maintained; it requires devotion to acceptance and a commitment to being non-judgmental. Are these possible? Yes, if they are given to oneself, they can be shared with the world. Does it take practice and a discipline after a lifetime of judging -- absolutely. Learning how to interact with oneself and others in a safe, respectful, kind manner is a process. The work starts at home. The shift is internal. The result is peace. The gift is the greatest gift to oneself or to another. It changes the world.

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