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Kay

Today, I went to a funeral of a long time friend and my former secretary of 8 years in the 90's. She passed away of unknown causes and quite suddenly. Her family is all reeling more than a bit as she was such a pillar of strength, wisdom and love combined beautifully all into one.

I loved Kay deeply. She had an amazing work capacity although she never seemed taxed or stressed. She put everyone at ease in the most loving of ways. She was kind to all of our patients, supportive to all the staff where we worked and incredibly tolerant of me and my moods.

At the funeral today, I saw her two beautiful boys (Tommy and Shane) who I had not seen since they were boys finishing school and beginning their work lives. They are now grown up, married and with 2 beautiful children each. I also saw her loving, devoted husband Henry who, as usual was warm, kind and full of life despite the obvious painful wound he was carrying with Kay's mysterious exit from our world. There were many other people at the service -- family (including her parents, sister and step children), friends and co-workers. All seemed blessed to have known this remarkable woman and overwhelmed that she is no longer among us.

What I took away was a powerful feeling of gratitude to have known such a wonderful person and shared in her wonderful life. More so, I felt the awe-inspiring feeling that we are all only here for a very brief time and we never know when that time will be over. It made me want to touch as many lives as I possibly can with as much kindness and respect as I can generate. I feel blessed to be allowed to be in the world that is truly filled with love. Kay was (and still is) the best example I know of that ever present love.

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So sorry for your loss, Mark...

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