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Happy New Year !!!!

New years' resolutions are a "loaded" topic. On the one hand they provide an exciting opportunity to make exciting improvements in one's life. On the other hand, they come with a huge pressure and they are frequently unsuccessful as stepping stones to real change. In our society, we build up holidays and we are supposed to behave as the holiday dictates. The problem comes for New Year's, in particular, as this celebration comes in the wake of the biggest, most festive season of all. Unfortunately, most Americans are so spent physically and emotionally by New Year's day that they not only cannot gather up the strength and energy to make a profound change in their life but most are weaker than at any other time of the year. Indeed, Americans are the most "ill" in January every year. It hardly seems like the best time to start a new way of being. This New Year's seems like a special New Year's. We have a new leader coming into power who won on a...

Connection -- The Antidote for Loneliness

There is an answer for the problem of loneliness and isolation. The answer is connection. The mechanism and pathway for suffering can be re-wired to a far better place with the addition of connection. This is food for the hungry and water for the thirsty. It is every bit as important and, fortunately, it is everywhere.It only needs to be recognized as valuable and sought after and it can do its magic. So what is connection? What does it feel like? How can one maintain the feeling of it when it is not there at the moment? I now will attempt to address these questions. The word connection has multiple definitions and usages if one looks in the dictionary. Connection comes from the latin root connectere meaning "bound together". The opposite of isolated, alone and separate. What does connection feel like? Warmth, openness, peace, calmness, trust accompany a sense of connection. Alternatively, tension, a need to defend oneself, fearfulness, agitation accompany isolation and sepa...

Finding the Magic of the Season

Holiday time is "designed" to bring people together to share and celebrate life. For those of the Jewish and Christian faiths, Hanukah and Christmas come in December and are the holidays of the winter season. In America, this is a "big" time of year. The commercialization of this time of year has added to the build-up and specialness of this season. There are very many expectations which accompany this holiday season. The holiday songs all allude to these expectations. It is supposed to be a time of joy, celebration, love, and peace. It is often this but for many it uncovers the emptiness and lack of connection that is their daily reality. The following suggestions are my effort to allow each person to feel the beauty of the season and the opportunity to experience the magic and power inherent in this wonderful life. This holiday season can be all that is advertised. I sincerely hope that each of you feel the love that the holiday season is meant to bring. (1) Devel...